What did you do the last time a friend, neighbor, or co-worker went through a serious hard time? Not just a bout with the flu. Something really hard. Cancer…Death of a child…Job loss…Divorce. Did you feel a bit paralyzed, not knowing what to do or say – afraid you might do or say the wrong thing?
If so, you need to watch this interview.
Sarah Beckman is an author and speaker who has been on the giving end and receiving end of coming alongside. In this interview she shares of her own four (yes, four!) back surgeries, as well as walking with her best friend through a 5-year battle with cancer.
Simply put, when it comes to walking alongside people facing major struggles, Sarah is as qualified as anyone I know.
The Guidelines in the interview address these five challenges:
- How do we overcome the paralysis – and subsequent guilt we often feel – when friends are struggling?
- Why should we never ask “How can I help?” (And what should we ask instead?)
- What does “listening well” look like? (And what’s the biggest mistake we typically make when we’re trying to listen well?)
- When it comes time to speak (after listening), what do we say…and not say?
- What do we do when someone is facing a “long haul” challenge? (Cancer battle, major injury, etc.)