If you have a child in middle school or high school – I beg you to read More Than Just The Talk: Becoming Your Kids’ Go-To Person About Sex by Jonathan McKee. In fact, you can stop reading right now, head over to Amazon, and grab a copy. I recommend it that highly.
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It is fantastic…and really hard to read (in all the good ways).
I recently had the chance to jump on Skype with Jonathan and discuss this book – and this massively important topic.
The opening sentences of Chapter 2 summarize the whole thing for me…
Plenty of loud voices are shouting explicit lies at our kids. Where are the voices telling the explicit truth?”
Yup, that about sums it up. This book is explicit. Not in a graphic-descriptions-for-shock-value sort of way. More like a we-can’t-skirt-around-an-issue-that-is-so-important sort of way.
The Video Interview
The Audio (podcast version)
[callout]Jonathan McKee is the author of over a dozen books including More Than Just the Talk, Sex Matters, Get Your Teenager Talking, The Zombie Apocalypse Survival Guide for Teenagers, and The Guy’s Guide to God, Girls, and the Phone in Your Pocket. Jonathan speaks to parents and leaders worldwide, all while providing free resources on TheSource4Parents.com. Jonathan, his wife Lori and his three kids live in Northern California. You can connect with him on Facebook, YouTube, Twitter, or his Amazon Author Page.[/callout]
Some Stats From the Book…
- 69% of teens hide their online behavior from their parents.
- 74% of parents say they don’t have the time or the energy to keep up with everything their child is doing online.
- The average age of first internet exposure to pornography is eleven.
- 32% of boys and 28% of girls have had sex by their freshman year of high school. By their senior year, that number jumps to 64%.
Some Quotes From the Book…
I’ve never met a parent who tried to tell the truth to their kids about sex and ended up introducing their kids to a temptation instead. It just doesn’t happen today.”
Our kids might be a little more inclined to approach us with these questions if we prove to them that we’re not only a good source for truth, but a safe source.”
Dads need to do more than just tell their daughters that they are beautiful; they need to treat them like they’re beautiful.”
Sometimes God’s people aren’t as forgiving as God is. God is willing to forget our sins and free us from our blotted past.”
The Book’s Table of Contents
- The Loud Voices
- The Quiet Voices
- Opening the Doorways of Communication
- The Most Enjoyable Sex
- How Far?
- Your Daughter
- Your Son
- The Lure of Porn
- Providing Answers About Masturbation
- Surviving a Blotted Past
- Tough Questions
Links (People, Info, and Resources) from Episode 38:
- TheSource4Parents.com – Where you can find out more about Jonathan McKee (and get heaps of free resources).
- Jonathan’s Amazon Page
- Click here to get your FREE copy of The Christian Parent’s Toolbox.
- Click here to get your FREE copy of My Top 10 Online Bible Study Tools
- Direct link to this podcast on iTunes.
- A Step-by-Step Guide to Subscribing to Any Podcast on Any Device (with screen shots)
- Podcast Art – Pipe & Tabor (Vancouver, WA)
- Intro/Outro Music – Dan Carollo of CeltoGrass Music
[reminder]What books or resources have you found helpful when it comes to discussing sex with your kids?[/reminder]