How to Come Alongside a Friend Facing Major Struggles

Video Interview with author Sarah Beckman

What did you do the last time a friend, neighbor, or co-worker went through a serious hard time? Not just a bout with the flu. Something really hard. Cancer…Death of a child…Job loss…Divorce. Did you feel a bit paralyzed, not knowing what to do or say – afraid you might do or say the wrong thing?

How to Come Alongside A Friend Facing Major Struggles

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If so, you need to watch this interview.

Sarah Beckman is an author and speaker who has been on the giving end and receiving end of coming alongside. In this interview she shares of her own four (yes, four!) back surgeries, as well as walking with her best friend through a 5-year battle with cancer.

Simply put, when it comes to walking alongside people facing major struggles, Sarah is as qualified as anyone I know.

The Guidelines in the interview address these five challenges:

  1. How do we overcome the paralysis – and subsequent guilt we often feel – when friends are struggling?
  2. Why should we never ask “How can I help?” (And what should we ask instead?)
  3. What does “listening well” look like? (And what’s the biggest mistake we typically make when we’re trying to listen well?)
  4. When it comes time to speak (after listening), what do we say…and not say?
  5. What do we do when someone is facing a “long haul” challenge? (Cancer battle, major injury, etc.)

The Interview

NOTE: The interview lasts 30 minutes, but Sarah stayed on an extra 15 minutes to answer some live questions.

The Book

Alongside: A Practical Guide for Loving Your Neighbor in their Time of Trial officially releases on Tuesday, Feb 14, 2017. If you’re reading this before then, you can get six “Early Order Bonuses” by clicking the picture below…

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The Author

Sarah Beckman is an author and speaker. Her experience on both sides of the “bed”—both being helped and helping others—provide her authentic viewpoint. She’s walked alongside countless people in life’s most challenging circumstances, including three close family/friends with terminal illness in just three years. Her passion for loving her neighbor has fueled her life and ministry for over 10 years, giving her the opportunity to address audiences across the country.

Sarah currently lives in Albuquerque, NM with her husband, Craig, of 24 years. They have three kids ages 15, 17, and 19. Sarah loves spending time with family and friends, golfing, hiking, sailing, entertaining, being still at the lake, leading mission trips to Haiti and eating green chile!

She has a B.A. in Journalism from the University of Wisconsin-Madison and also works as a communications coach and corporate trainer.


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